SBS 2011 SQL Memory Usage

Microsoft suggests not running an SQL server and Exchange on the same server.  Then they make SBS have both at the same time and it appears like they are both battling for the memory.  The server may list several instances in the services that you can connect to and adjust memory limits but there is a hidden one.  Connect to the below server and limit it.

\\.\pipe\mssql$microsoft##ssee\sql\query